What is it with 30?
Many of us, millennials and gen Z’s, are in such a hurry to be successful. We want to attain so many things and reach higher heights before we hit the age of 30.
What is it with that number, anyway? Thirty.
Is it the magic number that will determine our success or failure? Or just a gauge between ourselves compared to our peers?
Or maybe we are so disillusioned by the accomplishments of the outliers like Mark Zuckerberg or Kylie Jenner who became very successful at a young age. If they can, why can’t I, right?
I’m not saying we should aim low or settle for mediocrity. But before we aim for something, we should know our ‘why’.
Why do we want to be successful as early as possible? Is it out of passion, pride, a childhood dream, or a goal larger than ourselves?
Early in my career as a working professional, I also strived to climb the proverbial corporate ladder.
I wanted to be promoted every year and increase my salary. Because at the back of my mind, I want to do more, to buy more, and to be more.
Looking in hindsight, I was selfish. I wanted to accomplish many things, maybe a bit for my family, but ultimately for myself.
But once I finally found my vocation, everything changed. I was able to see things through a different set of lenses and escape the rat race with my heart and mind intact.
There is another thing people think has a deadline by 30… Marriage. I was once told to find a wife by 30. I asked, “why?”.
She answered, “so you will have a companion when you grow old”. In which I retorted, “if I will get married just for companionship, I might as well get a dog instead.”
So as the cliche goes, age is just a number. Just like there are many young successful people, there are also late bloomers that may take longer.
Life is not a sprint; it is not even a marathon. As a runner, I wouldn’t compare life to a race running towards a finish line.
Instead, I will liken life to an endurance run. The finish line is the end of the allotted time. You will run until your lungs, your legs, and your heart tires out.
You will get sore, bruised, and you will consume your everything, but if you endure until the end, it will be all worth it.
Learn to slow things down. Try to walk a little bit slower, breathe a little bit longer, look a little bit closer, and love a little bit deeper.
Life is a journey so just take one step at a time. There is no need to hurry. Run slow and live life.
Because in the end, God’s timing is perfect; never early, never late.