Now that we entered adulthood, we began to understand many things about growing up.
When we were in elementary, we often look at the older kids thinking that we will also be “cool” when we get into high school. Unfortunately, it did not go for most of us.
Then, when we were in high school, we thought that once we entered college and chose a “career,” it will immediately point us in the direction of our future. Again, for many of us, it did not.
Finally, when we were in college, we thought that after graduating and we started working, we would earn enough money and have everything figured out. Sadly, it did not, not by a long shot.
The Sad Realities of Adulthood
When we finally started working and living independently, we soon realized that life is hard. It may even have confirmed that our parents and the other adults in our lives were also as clueless as us about many things when they were starting or even up to now.
Isn’t it funny or just ironic or maybe a little bit poetic?
We are always excited with the idea of moving up to the next stage of our life, thinking that by that time, we will more or less have things figured out.
We thought that as we enter the gateway to adulthood, the knowledge and wisdom of the world will automatically be uploaded to our system, and we will naturally adapt.
Maybe the unrealistic expectation we had that life would be easy when we finish college is the root cause why many of us got frustrated and discouraged when we started our journey.
Adulting is Hard.
We haste through life, thinking that the future will always be better than today, but many often fail to pave the way for the better future they’ve dreamed of.
Many younger adults walk through life without considering how some of their careless actions or costly inactions today will directly affect the quality of their life in years to come.
When we grow older, we recognize that many people are just cruising through life without any direction – being tossed by the waves of the world until they get lost.
We are cast around and have to figure things out because we understand that not all adults know what they are doing.
They also look at what other people do and imitate or rationalize their actions.
One example is that so many adults don’t know how to handle their finances – both those earning little or a lot. I thought that debt is normal for adults to have, but I soon proved it is not.
There are also relationship problems that arise from personal differences and ideals, monetary issues, and more, which can break even long-term couples.
There are also some who just grew older but still acts like children trying to impress other people with their newest ‘toys’ and ‘hobbies’ by bragging about their house, car, vacation destination, job description, or children’s accomplishments.
Looking at other people’s experiences gave me a bird’s eye view of what to do or not to do. Through them, I can learn a lot without spending my resources.
The last question is, “Have we grow up or have we somewhat just grew older, but none the wiser?”
Eventually, we will slowly figure things out — not everything at once, but one at a time.
Then when we are older, we will look back into our lives and will be able to stitch the decisions that we made, both big and small, and realize how they were an integral part of God’s unique plan.
Keep the faith.